How can I have “an artificial insemination” from my partner in secret?
Qυеѕtіοn bу : Hοw саn I hаνе “аn artificial insemination” frοm mу partner іn secret?
Mу hubby аnd I аrе together fοr 8 years. A few weeks ago hе ѕаіd hе never wanted kids until 37. Wе аrе both 30. hе never ѕаіd anything lіkе thаt before. I аm іn shock: I don’t hаνе much time tο find another man tο hаνе a family wіth. Thіѕ guy іѕ perfect, hе wаntѕ tο bе wіth mе bυt hаѕ a hard time realizing іt’s impossible fοr mе tο ѕtаrt a family аt 37! Hе thinks thаt іt’s possible. Hοw іѕ thіѕ smart intelligent man саn thіnk those things? I wаѕ οn thе pill before bυt gοt οff іt a whіlе ago (іt wаѕ mаkіng mе a bit depressed) аnd now wе υѕе οld “pull out” method οf contraception. Talking tο hіm аnd ѕhοwіng hіm facts wаѕ nο υѕе. I саn lеt hіm gο аnd hope tο meet someone desperate fοr kids οr tο gеt pregnant frοm hіm іn secret аnd force hіm іntο having a child now. I аm choosing #2. Hοw саn I dο іt? Hе usually comes onto mу stomach οr chest. If mу timing іѕ сοrrесt аnd I hаνе a chance tο dip a tampon іntο thе semen аnd insert іt іntο mу vagina, whаt аrе thе chances οf getting pregnant? Mу OBGYN ѕауѕ I аm fertile аnd іn perfect health.
NOTE: Hе′s a kind οf guy whο′s very romantic аt times аnd naive (both used tο drive mе insane), ѕο I know hе won’t leave іf I gеt pregnant now.
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Anѕwеr bу Emi Mac
Sperm usually dies within seconds οf reaching oxygen, ѕο I’m nοt sure hοw уου′d bе аblе tο dο thаt. Plus іt’s WRONG.
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So your relationship will be based on a lie… what a great foundation.
You will regret this.. Your baby will be born into dishonestly and lies.. im not trying to judge… im sure you love your husband a lot and he does you… Maybe you could try and compromise and say @ 33 or 34 you’ll start trying.. If he sees you really want to be a mum.. maybe he’ll come around even earlier…
Secrets are no good.. My friend did this and her fiance ended up making her have an abortion and left her 5 months (after he made her have the abortion) because he couldn’t handle it..( he didn’t even know she was lying) Some men really really are not ready to be fathers… and some will be able to accept and change and others will just leave.. Good Luck!
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wow. i’m sorry ur having such a hard time. you should sit down with him and tell him how much this really means to you. but i REALLY don’t think u should go behind his back and surprise him with a baby, that’s not going to make him want 1, infafct i think that would surverly damage ur relationship. a ralationship is about trust and respect, and it sounds like u truly love your husband but if u get pregnant behind his back that’s like slapping him in the face saying u don’t care what he wants or when he want to have his children or what he wants to do with his own sperm. and i’m pretty sure ur relationship would end badly. so sit down with him and don’t just bore him with facts, but let him know how much this truly means to u. this is an adventure for both of u, make sure he wants to be a part of it. it’s 1 thing to have an acidental pregnancy, but he’ll find out u did it behind his back. if he still just wont listen try having the 2 of u go to a pastor or counseler or some one u trust that can help u comunicate. the 2 of u need to communicate and share ur feelings. best of luck.
You have plenty of time to have children. My sister didn’t have her first child until 37 and she didn’t need any fertility procedures. If your husband isn’t ready to have kids, then it is not a good idea. Why at age 37? That seems really odd to me. Is he trying to get done with school or does he not feel ready financially to have children? There has to be a reason behind it. I would figure out that reason and then you could counter why you think you (as a couple) are ready. Pressuring him and nagging him about it all the time will not help. Perhaps he sees the result that having children has had on his friends or family (such as financial woes, less time for intimacy, etc.) and he is afraid that will happen to you. If you do this and he figures out what you have done he may never trust you again. Plus you don’t want to bring a child into this world that was conceived out of deception. It should be conceived out of love.
You don’t want to keep this kind of secret from your husband and it will eat away at you.
I would suggest that you sit down and talk to him about changing the age from 37 to 34. Honestly I could not imagine having babies that late in life. My youngest will be 18 when I am 40.
If you wait until you are 37 you’ll both be 55 when your child is grown which isnt that old for raising kids, but what about future grandchildren. What if your child waits 37 years to have a child too?
I would really just talk to your husband about how important it is for you to have a child together. If he doesn’t seem like he wants a child at all… you might have to make a decision.
You never know, he might have a perfect plan for having a baby with you. Maybe in 7 years there is some grand design that will pull together and you’ll see the light.
You could, in theory, wipe the semen up on your finger, place your finger in there and hope for the best. You could also rest assured that with the pull out method, 25-50% of couples will get pregnant within a year.
More importantly, is the fact that you would be having a baby and bringing a baby into a home where the Father does not want a child. I don’t know why he isn’t ready, but that has heartbreak written all over. What if he truly isn’t ready and leaves you when you get pregnant – you say it isn’t possible but lots of Mommies are single because they knew their “man” loved them so much he would never leave and he did? What if he becomes abusive as he feels trapped? Those are the worst case scenarios. Best case scenario is that he accepts the baby, but he will forever regret his lost “youth” that the baby “took” from him when he wasn’t ready. A LOT of men are not ready to be fathers at 30. Men mature 5-7 years slower than women…were you ready for a baby at 23-25?
Look for a compromise in age, talk through your issues and try to make having a baby something you are both ready for and will welcome with open hearts and arms.
If waiting another 7 years (and that is a LONG time) is not something you can do, then perhaps you two are not compatible in your marriage and are growing up in different directions. There are lots of men out there who are ready for families NOW. Tell him how you feel and it will all work out the way it is mean to be!